WHO IS ARROGANT?
In Ghana, most People mistaken confidence most of the time as arrogance. Our culture makes it in a way that, we are raised timid as children. Our parents never allowed us to be heard. You can’t talk and do gestures with your hands. It is a big NO; your hands have to be at your back or sides.
But when I was taking lessons in facilitation skills, I got to know that using gestures is the best way to communicate. It facilitates your expression, lay emphasis and in a way catches people’s attention.
We see people being shy, timid and naive as respectful. We never allowed people to be themselves. Why?
Think of this;
There are people who cannot tell you the truth or rebuke you when you go wrong. Then these groups of people who can look you straight in the face and tell you, my brother or sister you are wrong. Who is being respectful?
It has been proven that the most timid people are Africans. We cannot even look straight eyeball to eyeball with people. When you do that you are being disrespectful in Africa, but on the contrary in the Western world this shows confidence and sincerity.
It is also proven that most girls get defiled because they are shy and timid.
Why do we fear being tagged “Too Known”. Never forget whatever you do, people will talk about you. I am not urging you to be loudmouth, but you must speak where you need to and be quite where it is necessary.
Even our educational systems also contribute a lot more to the problem. Where teachers, instructors, masters and our professors think they know it all. But there is a wise saying that, “wisdom does not reside in one head”.
You go to public offices and people take delight in bullying you. Thinking the office is their father’s property. What they do not know is, the office is to serve the public. Public office holders never realized as much as I may need them, they needed me more. And the tragedy is most people do not know their right.
Hey, next time you may want to refer to someone as arrogant or proud, you may want to re-examine yourself first. Remove the log on your eyes before you point to the speck on someone’s eyes. When you do that then you can see clearly. It takes the proud to know the proud!
As much as I encourage you to speak, I also urge you to listen more and think deeply before you speak. If you do not have anything to say my friend, shout up. Listen to Sir Winston Churchill, "Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen."
But when I was taking lessons in facilitation skills, I got to know that using gestures is the best way to communicate. It facilitates your expression, lay emphasis and in a way catches people’s attention.
We see people being shy, timid and naive as respectful. We never allowed people to be themselves. Why?
Think of this;
There are people who cannot tell you the truth or rebuke you when you go wrong. Then these groups of people who can look you straight in the face and tell you, my brother or sister you are wrong. Who is being respectful?
It has been proven that the most timid people are Africans. We cannot even look straight eyeball to eyeball with people. When you do that you are being disrespectful in Africa, but on the contrary in the Western world this shows confidence and sincerity.
It is also proven that most girls get defiled because they are shy and timid.
Why do we fear being tagged “Too Known”. Never forget whatever you do, people will talk about you. I am not urging you to be loudmouth, but you must speak where you need to and be quite where it is necessary.
Even our educational systems also contribute a lot more to the problem. Where teachers, instructors, masters and our professors think they know it all. But there is a wise saying that, “wisdom does not reside in one head”.
You go to public offices and people take delight in bullying you. Thinking the office is their father’s property. What they do not know is, the office is to serve the public. Public office holders never realized as much as I may need them, they needed me more. And the tragedy is most people do not know their right.
Hey, next time you may want to refer to someone as arrogant or proud, you may want to re-examine yourself first. Remove the log on your eyes before you point to the speck on someone’s eyes. When you do that then you can see clearly. It takes the proud to know the proud!
As much as I encourage you to speak, I also urge you to listen more and think deeply before you speak. If you do not have anything to say my friend, shout up. Listen to Sir Winston Churchill, "Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen."
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